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Observing etiquettes while staying in expensive hotels and dining

July 15, 2015

At a wedding in our family in Manesar, Haryana during the second week of July,  I was amazed to notice the attention paid to the finest detail. At the same time, I was appalled with the lack of etiquette displayed by some of the guests placed highly in the society as well conduct which I considered as  downright unacceptable. Therefore, I have decided to pen down my observations for the benefit of those who go for such ceremonies and parties and stay at fancy hotels and resorts . But before I do so, please read what some of my friends  have to say  :

Prashant Gautam  [ Patiala ]  : “I stayed once at a Ciruit  House somewhere  in Haryana a few years ago  . I  was informed by the Caretaker that it is a  very common practice  for people staying there to clean their shoes with bathroom towels despite the fact that most such people are VIPs .”

Nirmala Reddy [ Secunderabad ]  : ” While dining at a party recently , a heard a lady speaking loudly and incessantly over her cellphone . When I could bear it no more, I walked up to her and requested her to speak in a low tone . Instead of apologizing, she flared up at me !! “

And now :

I am certain that you have readied the best dresses and bought flowers and/or gifts for the couple to be . But have you brushed up on the etiquettes to be followed during your stay at the wedding venue –  hotel/resort and dining at the parties/restaurants ?

[Remember that Indian etiquette is quite formal, a mix of both Western and Asian culture. In fact, it is quite unique ]

Here are some tips that will make your conduct look good and appropriate :


Do not burp/ belch , don’t gulp the food, do not put things down noisily.

If you need something ask from waiter , do not say “bhai, bahiya or Sh…. Sh…”. Simply gesture to him with your hands.

After finishing the food , keep cloth or napkin  on the table and avoid using tooth pick in public , or  else cover your mouth while doing so . The napkin rests on the lap till the end of the meal. Don’t clean the cutlery or wipe your face with the napkin. NEVER use it to wipe your nose!

Pick up from the buffet table only as much food on the plate as you can finish. Don’t overindulge.  Attacking foods on the buffet  table as if you haven’t eaten in a week will not only attract the wrong kind of attention, it may also spoil your stomach later .

Eating at a medium pace is important, as eating too slowly may imply that you dislike the food, whereas eating too quickly is rude. Do not talk with food in your mouth.

Must avoid  touching  and picking up food items placed on the bowls at the buffet table with your hands when tongs and spoons are already placed there .While sharing is an important part of Indian etiquette, it is not nice to drink from someone else’s glass. This also applies to taking a bite of someone else’s sandwich, ice cream or chocolate .

Try to be on time.  Punctuality means different things to people , but in general, guests should arrive at or shortly after (usually  within fifteen minutes) the time stated on the invitation.

Thank the Chef while leaving and make recommendations to him  if you are a food connoisseur .


Do not even think of removing certain items such as wooden hangers, towels and footwear, Tea Maker , or toiletries like comb  , from your room while checking out :

Ruumi Daruwalla  [ Singapore ]  writes :  “A few years ago,  a guest reportedly  took away a TV Set from his room  in  Hotel Taj West End,  Bangalore .”

Anil Sharma  [ Dubai ]  comments    : “During our  stay at the Sterling Resorts in Kodaikanal  , S.India , four  years ago , the Resort Manager complained  to me how the guests were spoiling the expensive linen by smoking on their beds while watching  the telly or playing  cards .”

Do not leave used plates , crockery and cutlery outside your room  after you have finished eating . Call the Housekeeping to do so .

Keep your room generally tidy and while checking out, make sure that you put all items that are not required by you , empty  mineral water bottles and used newspapers for instance, in the trash bin provided . If you are staying with kids, tell them gently not to throw litter around .

Remember to thank the Hotel staff when you check out . If possible, write reviews of your experiences on global travel portals such as Lonely Planet, Trip Advisor etc. with suggestions on improvements that you would like to see on your next visit .

I trust that this will be found to be of interest , and those who read this will do their  best to be model guests and diners . Comments here  will be welcome .


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One Comment
  1. Very Good and informative.

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